Hi all!!
I return to this blog with the same enthusiasm as ever, to speak about a magical thing: the word "yes".
Some years ago, I decided I could not continue living behind shyness, fear of screwing up, the (felt and expressed) need to be accepted around the world, I said enough to everything, and decided to give an absolute turn. I needed to step back and see it all in perspective.
I realised I had everything at my fingertips. That I could do whatever I wanted. In my mind, my soul and my body I was alone, just myself, and it would be like that until the last day of my life. I was that entity and that whole. Did you ever feel that seems to be a dissociation between mind and body, as if they were different and separated things? I had that feeling. I told myself that I was first, first than family or even my husband. For me, I should be the priority. If I was fine, everything else would alse be ok. And if there is a god or an electromagnetic field that governs everything, I'm sure he would have said "good for you, gorgeous."
The first thing I did was a hard (it was very painful) discard of the people that I found toxic for myself, not because they were bad people (they aren't), but because they made me feel bad about myself.
I follow this pattern today: I just want to be surrounded by people who make me feel well about myself. My everyday people is extraordinary: with positive thoughts, curiosity, good words, good sense of humor and kindness. And generosity. A lot of. A ton... Which brings me happiness and peace, and I'm sure they have no idea about it.
Therefore, first: Surround yourself with people you connect with. People that adds you value. (There are good people everywhere, I think I've said it a thousand times in this blog. Find, within them, those that make you smile when you evoke them. Those that make you feel good).
The second part, I knew it was going to cost much more than anything, because it was based on a mental pattern that is the most limiting thing for all of us: shyness. The "I can not do that," "I never do this or that." Or my favourite: "I am not able to do that." What happens is that, surprise surprise, from the moment I started to be surrounded only with people who trusted me, it made me magically to begin trusting myself too!
With this push, I began to detect all the things that caused me in greater or lesser degree, fear or rejection. I detected the most important (of course, I still have) which were holding me back, limiting me, impeding my own progress. Obviously I'm not going to list them but as I say, they had much to do with that unreal and limited idea I had about myself.
And a great idea I had was to start saying yes to everything I'd love to do. Yes to everything that had a big "no" in my head from the very first moment.
Are we going to travel to such place?
First answer in my head: no, it's a lot of money, it's cold, it's hot, I have a thousand things to do. First answer out loud: yes!
Would you be interested in doing an interview with us, a mega company blabla?
First answer in my head: no, I'm not good enough, there're a lot of better people applying for it. I need to do a thousand of courses before. First answer out loud: yes!
Do you want me to introduce you to that person, who is very influential in the world of "whatever"?
First answer in my head: no, I'm not interesting enough, sure she/he has much better things to do than talk to me. First answer aloud: yes!
And this was a glorious starting. Suddenly, I began to live fully. Suddenly things happened to me.
The phrase may sound a bit strong, but it was like that actually. Suddenly THERE WAS NO BARRIERS. And saying yes to anything that produced me rejection or fear ... once I did it, I realised that it wasn't so hard or difficult. My value as a person was much more complex and stronger than I thought. That image of myself was not real. I'm able to do anything I want.
Start saying YES, with capital letters, was the starting of a YES to the life. To the opportunities. To all I wanted to do but was afraid: Yes to travel, to meet people, learn things that had nothing to do with my previous studies but were important for me. Yes to sing in a rock group. Yes to study journalism. Yes to learn Catalan, German, Dutch. Yes to make wonderful friends, to cook different things. To listen music outside of convention. Yes to write a novel, yes to share my fears and adventures in a blog. Yes to play a new instrument. Yes to dream.
I have a huge list with a thousand of things I want to do, and surely will. As soon as I get the chance to do something I like, I'll say yes blindly.
Start today to say Yes. Yes to set up your own business, to have coffee with the person you like, to learn something new. Open yourself to the possibility of the new. Be open to changes.
See you soon, folks!
I return to this blog with the same enthusiasm as ever, to speak about a magical thing: the word "yes".
Some years ago, I decided I could not continue living behind shyness, fear of screwing up, the (felt and expressed) need to be accepted around the world, I said enough to everything, and decided to give an absolute turn. I needed to step back and see it all in perspective.
I realised I had everything at my fingertips. That I could do whatever I wanted. In my mind, my soul and my body I was alone, just myself, and it would be like that until the last day of my life. I was that entity and that whole. Did you ever feel that seems to be a dissociation between mind and body, as if they were different and separated things? I had that feeling. I told myself that I was first, first than family or even my husband. For me, I should be the priority. If I was fine, everything else would alse be ok. And if there is a god or an electromagnetic field that governs everything, I'm sure he would have said "good for you, gorgeous."
The first thing I did was a hard (it was very painful) discard of the people that I found toxic for myself, not because they were bad people (they aren't), but because they made me feel bad about myself.
I follow this pattern today: I just want to be surrounded by people who make me feel well about myself. My everyday people is extraordinary: with positive thoughts, curiosity, good words, good sense of humor and kindness. And generosity. A lot of. A ton... Which brings me happiness and peace, and I'm sure they have no idea about it.
Therefore, first: Surround yourself with people you connect with. People that adds you value. (There are good people everywhere, I think I've said it a thousand times in this blog. Find, within them, those that make you smile when you evoke them. Those that make you feel good).
The second part, I knew it was going to cost much more than anything, because it was based on a mental pattern that is the most limiting thing for all of us: shyness. The "I can not do that," "I never do this or that." Or my favourite: "I am not able to do that." What happens is that, surprise surprise, from the moment I started to be surrounded only with people who trusted me, it made me magically to begin trusting myself too!
With this push, I began to detect all the things that caused me in greater or lesser degree, fear or rejection. I detected the most important (of course, I still have) which were holding me back, limiting me, impeding my own progress. Obviously I'm not going to list them but as I say, they had much to do with that unreal and limited idea I had about myself.
And a great idea I had was to start saying yes to everything I'd love to do. Yes to everything that had a big "no" in my head from the very first moment.
Are we going to travel to such place?
First answer in my head: no, it's a lot of money, it's cold, it's hot, I have a thousand things to do. First answer out loud: yes!
Would you be interested in doing an interview with us, a mega company blabla?
First answer in my head: no, I'm not good enough, there're a lot of better people applying for it. I need to do a thousand of courses before. First answer out loud: yes!
Do you want me to introduce you to that person, who is very influential in the world of "whatever"?
First answer in my head: no, I'm not interesting enough, sure she/he has much better things to do than talk to me. First answer aloud: yes!
And this was a glorious starting. Suddenly, I began to live fully. Suddenly things happened to me.
The phrase may sound a bit strong, but it was like that actually. Suddenly THERE WAS NO BARRIERS. And saying yes to anything that produced me rejection or fear ... once I did it, I realised that it wasn't so hard or difficult. My value as a person was much more complex and stronger than I thought. That image of myself was not real. I'm able to do anything I want.
Start saying YES, with capital letters, was the starting of a YES to the life. To the opportunities. To all I wanted to do but was afraid: Yes to travel, to meet people, learn things that had nothing to do with my previous studies but were important for me. Yes to sing in a rock group. Yes to study journalism. Yes to learn Catalan, German, Dutch. Yes to make wonderful friends, to cook different things. To listen music outside of convention. Yes to write a novel, yes to share my fears and adventures in a blog. Yes to play a new instrument. Yes to dream.
I have a huge list with a thousand of things I want to do, and surely will. As soon as I get the chance to do something I like, I'll say yes blindly.
Start today to say Yes. Yes to set up your own business, to have coffee with the person you like, to learn something new. Open yourself to the possibility of the new. Be open to changes.
See you soon, folks!
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